Anxiety is something you do , not something you are

You often hear it ‘ I’m a worrier’ or ‘ my mum and my grandmother had panic attacks – it runs in the family’  as if anxiety was written into their DNA- inherited. As far as I am aware no baby is born anxious.

There is a massive difference between something we inherit and something we learn. You can unlearn certain things – like negative thoughts and behaviors . So your anxiety may be similar to your mum and your grandmothers but it is passed on via observation not blood.

Once you distance yourself from your behavior then it becomes easier to change – to stop- because its under your control not part of you.

So the next time you hear yourself defining yourself by what you do – stop and change that language , that thought into saying – its what I do not what I am .