Happy New Year ?

I hate specific New Year Resolutions , most people set unrealistic lists of stuff they ‘ should ‘ do which last until about mid January before they ‘ fail’ . This gives us a wonderful opportunity to start the year with feelings of guilt , failure and self disgust, happy new year ? So when Continue reading »

Exam nerves – its that time of year again !

Tips for helping your anxious teenager So here we go – Exam time. Schools are ramping up the pressure and our teenagers are feeling the weight of expectation upon them. Whether its GCSE’s, AS levels or A levels our kids are under enormous strain , its hard enough being a teenager with all the anxiety Continue reading »

Anxiety is something you do , not something you are

You often hear it ‘ I’m a worrier’ or ‘ my mum and my grandmother had panic attacks – it runs in the family’  as if anxiety was written into their DNA- inherited. As far as I am aware no baby is born anxious. There is a massive difference between something we inherit and something Continue reading »

How to be successful in 2017

So what do you consider as success  ? and what makes you happy ? Do the two match ? There is the old saying that on our deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work . Work for most people is a necessity – and if we enjoy it then so much the better. Continue reading »

When do you need therapy ?

When is a problem bad enough to need therapy ? We all have issues , things about us that we might want to change , things that we feel out of control of, behaviors we don’t like . However this is normal and maybe it doesn’t need therapy – only you can decide. To me Continue reading »

TEENAGER! Brain under construction !

Teenagers are a speciality of mine – I enjoy dealing with them . Maybe because I have teenagers of my own, I have huge sympathy for them and their parents. It’s a hard time of life. To us, as parent, their life choices and rationale can be incomprehensible – they never listen to advice and Continue reading »

Insomnia – get out of your own way !

The easiest thing for your body to do is go to sleep – it needs it, in fact cannot survive without it so why do so many of us suffer from insomnia? It may not sound much – just a bad nights sleep – but as those of us who have had babies know , Continue reading »

Resilient Parenting

Everyone always talks about raising a resilient child but what about being a resilient parent ? Sometimes the hardest part of being a parent is watching your child suffer and feeling that there is nothing you can do about it – suffering by proxy I call it. We have all been there at the school Continue reading »

So What Is Normal ?

There is no such thing as ‘normal ‘ ! Many of my clients say they wish they were more like the people around them – ‘ normal’ people, and I ask them what they think ‘normal’ is exactly ? If you look at statistics 1 in 3 women become depressed at some point in their Continue reading »